Today I wanted to talk to you about baby showers and open up the blog to a bit of a discussion.
Baby showers are becoming increasingly popular these days. I’d say at least 50% of the people I know who have had babies have had a baby shower. I’m not too sure about the history of it all but it does seem to be an American tradition that we have adopted over here in the UK and something that has become increasingly popular over the last few years.
It’s a great time for you and your girl friends to get together before the baby is born and have some fun together. Party games, cake, tea, fizz are the norm as well as presents for the mum to be and baby.
However if I’m completely honest I have never really been a big fan of baby showers and now I find myself pregnant quite a few people have asked if I’m having one, My sister in law has even (very kindly) offered to throw me one.
After much thought and discussion with people I have decided not to have one and for many reasons.
- I’m not sure what my main bug bear with them is? I feel a bit of it is superstition. I don’t want people buying presents for the baby before he is actually born. The ceremony of opening presents in front of everyone makes me feel a bit uncomfortable, I’d rather wait until he is here in the world and we know he is fit and healthy before I accept gifts on his behalf.
- I also feel it is a bit presumptuous to expect gifts form people. If I were to throw a baby shower I would make it clear to people that gifts weren’t necessary, that I’d rather the pleasure of my friends and family’s company. However I know this wouldn’t wash with most people and that they would feel that they had to bring a gift and I’d hate to make anyone feel that they had to do something! But then what happens when the baby is born and they come round to visit, do they then feel that they can’t come empty handed? And then bring another gift? This really is something that makes me feel uncomfortable!
- I’d rather wait till the baby is born to celebrate his birth so I can have a proper drink! Yes that may sound selfish but I really don’t want to sit in a room full of friends who are all drinking while I sip on yet another non-alcoholic drink. I haven’t had a drink for nearly a year now and as much as I am getting used to it, my idea of a good party involves alcohol, especially one that is thrown in my honour! For this reason I’d rather get together with people individually or in a group once I can drink again! And also when I don’t have a beach ball attached to me. Think how much more fun you can have without the baby inside you!
- Personally for me trying to get all my frinds together would be near impossible. Although I have lots of friends they are all dotted about the country, they all come from different walks of life, so trying to get them in one place for a baby shower isn’t going to be easy!
- Lastly the time of a baby shower is normally the last month or two of your pregnancy and to be quite honest I have so much else going on at the moment that I’m not sure when I would fit it all in. The stress is beginning to pile on, with the amount of house stuff that needs to be done, nesting has well and truly kicked in! Work is mentally busy trying to get everything finalised for when I go off on maternity leave. Add to this the amount of midwife appointments, antenatal classes, doctors, hospital, dentist appointments, honestly when is there time to organise a baby shower??
So for all of the reasons above I’m out when it comes to having a baby shower. Wow even thinking about having one is beginning to stress me out!
So tell me am I over thinking it all? Do you feel the same about baby showers and find the whole thing a bit uncomfortable? Or are you a lover of them? Did you have one yourself and think it was the best decision? Did you have a gift registry?
I’d love to hear your thoughts on them good or bad!
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